When you feel nothing is working for you, probably the first thing you need to do is stop cribbing about it – either to yourself, or worse, with others. Next best thing is to avoid being in the company of cribbers. You first ‘think’ nothing is working for you, then you ‘reiterate’ it, then you tend to ‘accept’ it and then, you’re ’sure’ nothing will ever work.
I’ve been part of at least 6 teams and every team has it’s heroes, cribbers, followers, gurus and foxes. You could also say that about the people you know or familiar with. You could still get some work done from the foxes, but always, beware of the cribbers. They’re on the one-way road, and it goes down.
When something we expect is not happening, it’s common to feel negative/pessimistic. Accept it, move on and work on it. The sooner, the better. It’s only YOU that can figure and sort it out. Don’t expect things to sort out by themselves, they may, but to an extent only.
Often, we’re ready with solutions and guidance to others in similar situations, but not when it comes to ourselves. We seem to be lost and give up hope. If you can remember just this fact, you’re at the first step of believing that there’s a solution to every problem. You may never have any ‘best’ way to do things. You just have to make the ‘best’ informed decision you think might work.
It’s a good thing to have one or more mentors/friends whom you trust. Talk to them. Get ideas and perspectives. Ask how they would’ve dealt with the situation. Take them with a pinch of salt, meaning – don’t think they’re always right. In fact, it’s never a question of a right or wrong. It’s a question of what will work best for you, in your given situation, with your given constraints.
In short, the power to deal with your problem is with you and you alone.
“You’re not given a problem without the power to solve it.’ ~ Unknown.
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